Wednesday, January 30, 2008

Life in the Fab Lane...

Have you ever been in a situation that put you in a position to do something that you are terrified about? Kimora says that you must look absolutely FABULOUS-as usual- and up your deodorant factor. Even though you may be terrified, you can do anything you put your mind to with a little preparation, a lot of prayer, and a whole lot of deodorant.
This is extremely funny to me because, I ALWAYS need increased deodorant factor. LOL! Well, at least I KNOW that I need to up the factor. You know....some people are in denial. LMBO!

Tuesday, January 29, 2008

Good News

Getting good news is great. Especially when it's good news about something you've been working on for a while. Getting good news about something that has presented obstacle after obstacle is even better.
My father says that anything worth doing is not going to be easy. If it were, everyone would be doing it. God, the father, says that He has a wonderful plan for the life of His children but we must be faithful and walk the path He has laid before us. God opens door and brings you to opportunities. The devil will try everything he can to discourage you from walking the path God laid before you because he sees the great things God has in store for you. If the devil shuts a door, God will open a window. It's your job to keep your eyes open for alternative routes and don't shut down when things don't go as smoothly as you would like for them to when you are trying to accomplish something.
Most importantly, ask God if you're headed in the right direction. Sometimes the road blocks are signs that you're going the wrong way.

Sunday, January 27, 2008

Parental Units

After a business meeting with my father, I got to thinking about how blessed I am to have the parents that I have. How many people can say that they do business with their parents? Not many people even trust their parents to loan money to them, let alone start a business venture with them.

My parents are the best. They support me in all of the right ways, they tell me when I'm wrong-which is very important when learning life lessons, and I can count on them. I think about where I am in life and how I would not be here if it weren't for them.

If I am ever blessed to become a parent, I hope that my husband and I will be half the parents that mine were to me-and his to him because his parents are pretty great, too. Some people look at status symbols (car, house, job title, etc.) as a sign of success. But I think that making sure your children are self sufficient and make smart decisions is way more important than any of those things. I pray that God humbles me to make the sacrifices for my children that my parents made and still make for my sisters and I.

I love my parents and I thank God for them everyday. I have been blessed and I plan on being a blessing to my children in the future.

Saturday, January 26, 2008


My girls and I went belly dancing yesterday. It was so fun watching other women's version of "sexy". There were all types of women in the class, big, small, young, old and all of them enjoying themselves while learning the art of belly dancing. And you know what, we enjoyed each other.
Which brought something to mind.
Why is it when a group of women get together, there is a bunch of anomosity in the room? You can cut the tension with a knife, sometimes, it's so thick. What is the big deal? I mean I'm guilty of it, too. The whole thinking, "What the h*ll is she looking at?" Sometimes I may roll my eyes at on lookers. Or even be more obnoxious and rude because I feel I have an audience. But, at my age I should be more mature and do the Christian thing, smile and say hello. Maybe even give a compliment to the on looker. There is always something nice you can say to someone.
Smiles are just as contagious as yawns and negativity. Lets make the world a better place and just smile at one another.

Friday, January 25, 2008

The Rules

I recently read a male friends blog on relationships and how he had given the ole' okie doke to his psuedo-girlfriend of 7 months with the excuse of "if it ain't broken, why fix it". There were several comments about how men should be honest with a woman if he is not interested in a committed relationship but no one pointed out how the woman could be at fault.
First of all, woman need to stop chasing and catering to men. Men like a challenge. It's a game to them. They want what is hardest for them to get. If you make it easy for them, they lose interest, quickly. It doesn't matter how pretty, succesful, smart, stylish, or fun you are. If you're easy access, forget about it. When I say easy, I don't mean that you are a slut. I mean, you are always available when he wants to talk to you or see you. You call him more than he calls you. You do all of the calling. You change your plans when he calls you at the last minute. Stick to your schedule. If you planned to chill at home, keep that plan. He should be finding a way to fit into your schedule, not the other way around, if he's interested. If he isn't, he'll move on, to your advantage. You don't want him wasting your time anyway.
You take anything he gives you as acceptable. For example, no birthday call or gift, no date for Valentine's Day, he's missing in action on Christmas, unaswered phone calls, unreturned messages, etc. You brush the hurt off and accept him with open arms without making him suffer consequences when he decides to come back around with no explanation. People in general, whether it be a male-female relationship or employee-employer relationship, are only going to do to you what you allow. As seen in the parent-child relationship, boundaries are tested and pushed until punishment is enforced. Not saying that you must punish people to get them to treat you right but you must draw the line at what is acceptable to you. After all, no one is going to care about you as much as you are. So, if you don't speak up for yourself, who will?
I realize that no one wants to be lonely, but accepting substandard behavior from your mate will probably leave you just as miserable as being single. You must first know what your needs are before you can know how you need to be love. Sure, any man can care for you and love you. But does he love you the way you need to be loved. Some women need to be wined and dined while others prefer walks in the park and picnics. If the one you are with is not meeting your needs, be woman enough to move on. On the flip side, everyone has there quirks and baggage. People don't change, so you must know when enough is enough. Are you willing to accept the good with the bad? Is the bad overshadowing the good?
Just my thoughts on dating and relationships. If you are unhappy in the relationship you are in, think about the changes you need to make before you try to change your mate. After all, you only have control over your actions so choose them wisely.

Who's Laughing Now

Isn't it funny how people who you thought cared about you could intentionally do something to hurt your feelings?
Isn't it funny how the same people who intentionally try to hurt you are miserable themselves? Isn't it funny how someone can be so mean to you and all you've ever done is love them?
Isn't it funny that all those bad intentions add up to continued misery?
Cause I'm still happy, baby, even after all of the bad treatment!

Taking a Step Back

When going through a hard time, I had to step out of the situation to see what was really going on. I realized that I had to make a change in myself in order for change to occur around me. How could anything get better or be different if I didn't change they way I was operating.

So now, I smile more, so I appear more approachable. My "thinking" face was coming off as a mean scowl, which was not my intentions. I think before I speak. I alter my delivery to accomodate my audience. I listen more than I talk. You can't help someone if you don't first hear what they have to say. I don't take things so personal. I've realized that when someone hurts my feelings, alot of times it has nothing to do with me. Most of the time, their response to me is in direct correlation with something they are dealing with inside. I keep my accomplishments to myself, unless I am asked. Something I am excited about and want to talk about may come off as bragging to the person who hasn't quite achieved their own goals. I've learned that everyone is not going to be happy for me and envy is as real as the color green. People come into your life for a reason, season, and lifetime. If the time comes to let someone or something in your life go, let them go. Holding on can only cause more harm than good and block potential blessings. Heck, the blessing could be that they are out of your life. It's their time to go so someone else can come in. Take opportunities as they come and be ready to make opportunities when you can. God has opened so many doors for me. He has given me opportunities that I would have never imagined. These opportunities came because I wasn't afraid to step out on faith that even if I was rejected, His plan is still in progress.

Know that God has a wonderful plan for your life. Things are as they should be and stepping out on faith is the best thing you can do. Our plan may not work out, but God's plan guarantees success. Have a maliable view of success, your success could be different than you envisioned it, but fulfilling God's will is the highest level of success you can ever achieve.

So step back and take a look at your life. Is there something that isn't quite they way you think it should be. What have you done to make change so that your situation can change?