So...here goes.
In the age of reality television, especially the "Wives" of whoever, we get a glimpse into peoples lives that we wouldn't ordinarily have a chance to see. We get to see wealthy, well off, kept, gold digger, resourceful women interact in staged situations that create drama for our entertainment. One of my favorite shows is "Love & Hip Hop". I love this show because it highlights different aspects of the "music industry" as it pertains to hip hop and R&B. We get to see
women play their roles in this industry: a manager, a mother, a long time girlfriend, girlfriends/baby mothers, a friend, an aspiring artist, and a struggling artist. Oddly, Love & Hip Hop does not boast any wives. I guess that's why it's not called "Hip Hop Wives". LOL! Anyway, I bring up Love & Hip Hop because one of the girlfriends, Chrissy, has been asked "What do you do?" or told "You're just a girlfriend" because she doesn't necessarily have a job/profession or a "hustle" as some like to say that is displayed on the show. This made me think about how society has changed. Some may say we have progressed, but to me, we've just changed.
Why is it such a big deal that Chrissy's boyfriend works to take care of his family? Is it a bad thing that he considers her a part of his family? Morally speaking, they should be
married but, if they were married, then the question would remain the same. I mean, what is the traditional husband/wife role anyway? Husband takes care of household by being a provider, wife takes care of husband by keeping the household in tact. It's in the bible, right? In the age where more and more women are getting college educated, the ratio of single mother's has increased as well, right along with men who are incarcerated. Although I am educated and have a career, I would gladly give up "Professional" for "Homemaker". I contribute to my household, financially, but my husband is still the "Man of the House", making final decisions and taking the lead when he should. I know my role as the wife. I speak my piece, but in the end, I submit. (Also in the bible)
While independence is championed, we fail to teach our daughters how to be wives. Therefor, our daughters don't know how to let a man be a man in his own house. Then, we criticize women who choose homemaking over a salary. Our school system used to teach Home Economics, now a lot of women don't even know how to boil an egg. Could it be because their mother was at work and possibly too busy to teach them how to cook? When a man finds a wife-or in Chrissy's case, girlfriend- he finds a good thing, says the bible. Don't be so quick to judge someone else's situation, especially when you do not know the true dynamics of it.
"Independent" women, if you are wondering why you are single, take a step back and evaluate yourself. It can't possibly be that EVERY man you've dated is a lying, cheating dog who just wasn't that into you. Is it possible that, as an independent woman, you aren't letting him be a man and take care of you the way he was designed to do?
Anyway, I hear that Chrissy is now engaged to be married. Congrats, girl! We're happy for you. Check out that ring!
First of all who are you referring to as aspiring and who is struggling...its not nice to shade Olivia she's out here giving her ALL! *cue Rich's tears*
ReplyDeleteSecondly, agreed! Chrissy doesn't need a job or occupation, she needs a hobby, purpose outside of Jimmy and busting heads doesn't equal a HOBBY! LOL
Thank you for commenting in the appropriate forum, soulmate.
ReplyDeleteAnd she got a hobby, practicing for when she has to bust a head open. LOL!
Chrissy like so many in our society gives her man all of the benefits of having a wife without signing those papers. Because he hasn't liked it enough to put a ring on it, she is frustrated and angry with EVERYONE but the right ONE. Long story short, once we start lowering our standards to the point of actually having no standards, we end up with men who don't see our true value (mainly because we sold it for the "privilege" of being kept, or a pair of shoes, or to live in a nice house.)
ReplyDeleteI totally agree, Nichole, but I like to keep my blogs short and to the point, only focusing on one topic. LOL!
ReplyDeleteThe point was not what Chrissy's issue is but why is everybody worrying about what she does for a living. Zeroing in on how women in society have lost their way when it comes to their knowing and playing their position. That's all. I'll talk about giving too much on another blog.